Betrayal & Relationship Rupture
Something happened. Everything feels different.
Betrayal can leave you questioning the relationship, yourself, and what happens next.
DeepWaters provides individual therapy for people on either side of betrayal—whether you were betrayed or you are trying to understand and take responsibility for a betrayal of your own.
If You Were Betrayed
If You Betrayed Someone
If You Betrayed Someone
You may be dealing with:
shock • anger • grief
• anxiety • hypervigilance •
questions • loss of trust
You may be asking:
What happened?
What can I trust?
What do I need now?
Therapy can help you stabilize, care for yourself, establish boundaries, make sense of what happened, and decide what you want moving forward.
If You Betrayed Someone
If You Betrayed Someone
If You Betrayed Someone
You may be dealing with:
shame • guilt
• fear • confusion • loss •
consequences • uncertainty
You may be asking:
Why did I do this - and how do I keep it from happening again?
Therapy can help you move beyond either defensiveness or self-condemnation toward honest accountability, greater understanding, and more intentional choices.
You don't have to know whether the relationship will survive
After betrayal, there can be enormous pressure to decide:
Stay or leave?
Forgive or not?
Trust again or protect myself?
Therapy can begin with what is happening now.
The first task may simply be becoming steadier, understanding the situation more clearly, and identifying what belongs to you.
What We May Work On
regulate
take action
understand
Manage the emotional aftermath and build enough capacity to think, feel, and make decisions without being completely overwhelmed.
understand
take action
understand
Explore what happened, what it means, and, when relevant, the automatic patterns and protective responses underneath it.
take action
take action
take action
Work toward appropriate boundaries, accountability, self-care, repair, forgiveness, grief, or decisions about what comes next.
Understanding behavior does not excuse it.
And taking responsibility for your own healing does not make you responsible for someone else's choices.
You don't have to enter therapy as a couple.
Sometimes the most important work initially belongs with one person.
Individual therapy can help you focus on:
- your own healing;
- your own behavior and choices;
- shame without collapse;
- accountability without defensiveness;
- boundaries;
- emotional regulation;
- repeated relationship patterns; and
- deciding what kind of person you want to be moving forward.
The goal is not to force reconciliation - or force separation.
If couples work becomes appropriate, DeepWaters can also coordinate with an existing couples therapist or explore collaborative co-therapy.
When betrayal is part of a larger pattern
Sometimes the betrayal itself is connected to behavior the person has struggled to understand or interrupt.
If you keep thinking, “I knew better. So why did I do it?” the work may also involve understanding the automatic patterns beneath the behavior.
You don't have to have a plan yet.
If betrayal has changed your relationship, your sense of yourself, or what you thought your future would look like, we can begin with what is happening now.
Online therapy for Adults in Texas & Colorado
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